… So I came across this beauty, a conversation between Yewande
Omotso and Nigerian feminist Simi Dosekun about her research titled “New Styles
of Femininity in Nigeria”.
Spoke to everything I believe in. Here:
“A lot has been written specifically in the area of gender
studies. What male and female has to look like. Perhaps because of my own experience
of growing up being labelled a “tomboy”, I am deeply fascinated by this: The suggestions that our behaviours are scripted.
Who wrote the script? What does it mean if we follow that script? And what does
it mean when we don’t? How much do we do
out of choice? And how much out of ‘a need’ to conform…? Am I only what I’m
seen to be?
... the idea that feminism means choice, we hear it a lot and
therefore “if you have choice- then you’re fine.” I think that’s very problematic
and also very simplistic because the fact is we live in a world where we don’t
really have a say in what real choices are. The choices on offer are very limited.”
